So often we pretend to care about someone. We convince our self that we are concerned for their happiness. But when our emotions become a wave of reaction to them our own well being is now at stake. When this happens our caring for them becomes unduly influenced to try and make our self feel better. At this point our caring for them might more honestly be called selfishness.
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