Some people think that anger is a valuable or important step in personal change. Your anger rising high enough will motivate you to change. There are some benefits to anger, but this isn’t one of them.
Anger is an emotional reaction. When it is strong enough it can bring your attention to an issue. In that moment your tolerance for the situation, or your behavior, is exceeded and you make a commitment to change. It is not your anger that makes the change happen. It is your attention and your commitment to change that will make the difference.
If you want to make changes in your life, relationships, or your self, letting things go to until you end up angry is not required. What is required for change is your attention to the matter and your resolve to make it happen.
For more on how to make changes in your life listen and practice the exercises in self awareness in the Self Mastery audio program.